Beautiful. I am sure my WW is having a MLC, as for me I think I want to stand for the woman she was before this madness got her.
I was once talking to a counsellor as I myself had health anxiety and panic Attacks. On a sitting I told my counsellor " I feel I am becoming MAD" she answered me back "that is actually a good thing " I said "really?!?" And she explained to me that when people become MAD it happens unconsciously they just don't know they are becoming hence I was not mad. MLC is pure madness in my opinion and hopefully my wife will comeback to her senses. I want to be her lighthouse because I know the woman before the madness.
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M43 WW 41 OM 24 M 17 T 19 D 9 S 3 BD 04 -11-16 I left home same day PA confirmed -16-17 on going since September 2016 D FINAL 19-04-08
R 25 years M 14 years S11 & S13 Working on it alone since Oct 2014 M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years) Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr. Next R chat Aug'17 Still together
Married 10 years 6 ONS that I know of and one 8 month affair False reconciliation 06/2015 WH moved out of house upon my request 04/22/2017 WH told me about 8 month affair 04/28/2017
I am glad I read this... the biggest obstacle is that I am yelling through the waves that the lighthouse is here but she keeps replying that she doesn't trust the directions and has to follow her own map.
The lighthouse doesn't reach out. It sits there for the time when it is needed. All these metaphors are helpful. The picnic story, paving the way home, etc. But, the key is to let them initiate. Be happy and pleasant and act as if in the meantime.
The lighthouse doesn't reach out. It sits there for the time when it is needed. All these metaphors are helpful. The picnic story, paving the way home, etc. But, the key is to let them initiate. Be happy and pleasant and act as if in the meantime.
Yes! I need to be more consistent in that. It worked before. And then when I opened my heart I may have pushed too fast.
The lighthouse doesn't reach out. It sits there for the time when it is needed. All these metaphors are helpful. The picnic story, paving the way home, etc. But, the key is to let them initiate. Be happy and pleasant and act as if in the meantime.
Can you link the picnic story?
M 40 W 34 Together 7 Married 2 No Kids BD 1/18 need space Moved out 2/18 ILYBNILWY & Asked for D 3/18 W filed for D 6/18 D final 10/18
