Hi Lana, glad you are having a better day today. You have already been given some great advice. I just wanted to chime in and agree. Those days (and we all have them) where we spin, feel low, feel angry, antsy or whatever other strong emotion - are the days to do nothing I respect of our marital situations.

They are a great time to post here, lean on forum friends, vent, cry - and not a great time to be in touch with our WAS/MLCer. In my situations, there were some times I found it really hard to do nothing. But I have never regretted doing nothing, and I have come to find strength in that restraint.

Or if we feel the need to do something, it is good to do something for ourselves at that time...

Take care and it sounds like you are doing well, given all circumstances..

xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus