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[Coly23]

Hey Pinn, great to see an update from you at last! I've been checking Newcommers regularly see if there is anything from you. Sorry that sounds a bit stalkerish but I do check for other threads too!

I was so sorry to hear about your Mum but wow 200 people showing up to the celebration of her life. That must go some way to giving you comfort knowing that she was loved by so many people.

WR to your W. I think there definitely needs to be some movement one way or the other. It seems to me that you have become dissolutioned and dare I say quite dismissive of your W's feelings. I know she hurt you badly however it seems you are using that as a way to get away with some not so good behaviour towards your W. Yes, that is a 2x4 I am hitting you with and I don't give those out very often!

At some point you are going to have to forgive her for what she did otherwise you risk this being a self fulfilling prophecy where she walks away again because you are still using what she did against her and you still believe she will walk away.

Pinn, I read all your posts from the start to the present day and you were the first poster I saw who really embraced DB principles and I admired you greatly for that. Your W treated you very badly but you have also owned your part of the marriage breakdown and you said as much on Pax's thread recently. It seems as if your W is, at the moment, wiling to put up with your indifference towards her because she possibly feels she deserves it. However how long do you think you can go on punishing her?

I hope you have a fantastic time in Hawaii Pinn! I am very jealous although I have been there twice already it was a very long time ago and I would do anything to go back there! Hopefully this vacation will help to clear your mind and move forward to the next stage in your life.

(((Pinn)))