Question: The longer DB goes on and the less time you visit, speak, communicate with spouse: how do they know you are still interested in working on marriage?
Example: I am GAL, 180, Detaching - and then months go by and we slowly start drifting apart...how does/will she know I still want to work on marriage? Do we ALWAYS let them to be the one to bring it up? What if they are scared of rejection and don't want to bring it up?
Make sense?
You have said the Div was retracted and refiled multiple times. So one or both of you is far too reactive. And in most eyes your time line is very very short.
Your post above and signature block make it seem to me that you think if things are not all better by next month, then all is lost. That is Reactive and fear based.
here is the math of it, which I think I've posted to you before but here goes... Small consistent changes + sufficient time = change she can believe in.
Stop rushing this. You really do each have issues. No judgement meant by that comment. I mean, what was the m like when you both were happy?
What would SHE say the problems are?
What are you doing on your end of things now? I don't mean how much you are working on getting her back
but on your own inward work? To become a better man, h and dad?
How is your son handling all this?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
