I am pretty sure it has been mentioned many many many times that you cannot force her hand into making a decision.
That is not saving and rebuilding a marriage. That's being forced into a choice.
Let me as you a serious question.
Do you want to go back to the marriage you had, or do you want your issues remedied and want to build a new stronger marriage?
because if you try to "force" her hand and she chose to stay because she was forced into it, how will that strengthen your marriage? You'll end up right back here.
This is stinks. But there is no quick and easy solution.
If you do get divorced, you do realize you can get married again, right?
