You make a good point. The rules indicate that I should be vague. But since my W is transparent, I will continue to do the same. Nothing to hide, just trying to come off as mysterious I suppose. Thanks.
If your spouse has ended contact with the OM and is being transparent, you don't have to act as secretive in GAL. If she is genuinely trying to work at reconciling the MR, she could feel it was unfair.
BTW, the "rules" were not really designed for couples who are in the "piecing" stage of their MR. In other words, when the spouse is remorseful; has accepted responsibility for their behavior; wants to earn your trust; and are committed to do the necessary work in saving the MR, (ended affair and all contact with the AP, stop acting like girls gone wild, cooperating with transparency, going to therapy, etc), then you will be in the piecing stage. . However, there are some rules that could still be used, when necessary.
Some LBS's are so eager to get to piecing that they bypass some of these things I've mentioned. Piecing is very hard work, so you had better have those other issues fixes before considering yourself as piecing.
P.S. I'm not saying you were considering yourself piecing, Thread. Just wanted to throw that in here while I was thinking about it.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
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