I don't see my wife ever reaching out. She's a runner. She's an emotional avoider. If I don't reach out at some point, I doubt she ever will. So I am thinking it may be appropriate in my situation to eventually reach out and build small bits of goodwill and see if it goes anywhere.
Have you read the pursuit and distance thread?
I understand that your wife is a vanisher however I do not think that pursuing her will get you closer to your goal.
