Still looking for feedback on if I should reach out to my wife this weekend after our most recent NC of 4 weeks. Just something short and positive, nothing about the R or the past. I feel like it would be a good idea, but my vision may obfuscated by attachment. 25?
Why?
What are your expectations?
To start a small, positive dialogue with her -- small talk, to avoid talking about the relationship and the past, and to slowly attempt to reconnect with her. 25 and I discussed this in my last thread and she suggested that during my W's upcoming deployment, perhaps we could start to reconnect via email. Well, that's coming soon, I would like to get a little bit of positive contact back and forth, if possible.
Many others on this board are still living with their spouses or still see them routinely due to kids. We have neither of those things. We are completely disconnected from each other -- I couldn't even text or call her if I wanted to, all we have is email. I'm not convinced that we fit into this cookie cutter mold of what is commonly seen here. For example, I read a lot of other people's situations and see that the WAS will oscillate between kindness toward LBS and then turning around and engaging with the affair. I don't have that. All I have is radio silence.
For the most part, this has been good, it has forced me to look at myself and work on me. But I don't see my wife ever reaching out. She's a runner. She's an emotional avoider. If I don't reach out at some point, I doubt she ever will. So I am thinking it may be appropriate in my situation to eventually reach out and build small bits of goodwill and see if it goes anywhere.
But I am not sure, thus I am looking for feedback based on my particular situation. Maybe I need to crack on DR again...
M-32 W-32 (both military) T-8 M-6 PA Oct/Nov 16 (happened twice) Discovered PA 11/30/16 S 12/1/16 MC 12/1/16 - 1/18/17 BD 1/18/17 A continues? 1/24/17 texts resume with W & OM W Filed 3/8/17 W Deploys 7/17
