She's also expressed that maybe she never wants to be married or tied down at all again, and she might be polyamorous. Her lifestyle (other than her career) has had a couple complete 180's, where she jumps in with both feet and then later reverts back. Whereas I'm open minded, but much more slow and cautious in general.
As far as Sandi's rules: I pretty much did the exact opposite of that for a while, and have gradually moved to following them over the last 2 weeks. I have to say, it seemed to improve things. It's a real leap of faith to follow them though. I know I should stop initiating all contact with her, but I really want opportunities to show her how I've improved. And I really don't want her to become more attached to the guy she's dating, though that's likely out of my power.
I know she's conflicted, but I'm starting to believe her when she says "it's too little, too late".
Hello b77,
I'm so sorry for the situation you are in.
At this point you can't believe any of what she says and only half of what she does. Focus all of your time, effort and energy into becoming the best b77 that only a fool would leave.
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