The reason why I don't want to get ino an R or until she is much older is because a relationship with the custody arrangement I have simply cannot be cultivated on an every other weekend basis for a year. There is no guy who wants something serious who would be someone's every other weekend. And I cannot spend a year with someone, fall in love with them, introduce them to my child and find out they don't click. It's a crappy spot to be in. I don't have family or help where people can watch her while I date and babysitters these days are an arm and a leg. I do not want to involve her anymore.
Ginger - Im sorry for the pain you are going through. It doesnt matter how far into a relationship it is, the feeling of being told you arent 'good enough' stings. Youll get through this, one way or another.
I do want to address your comments above. I cant imagine waiting a year to introduce someone to my kids. If that isnt a fit, then theres no point in even having a relationship with that other person. I dont want to spend a year with someone only to discover that there was never a chance to begin with. On the other hand, three months is kind of a short time for your daughter to be as attached to FF as she was. When I introduced my current partner to my kids, it started out as a once a week type thing for a little while so that they could get acquainted but not too attached. I know to each their own and whats done is done, just some thoughts going forward.
I will also say that I have my kids every single Friday night and every single Saturday night. My ex has them Sundays and the beginning of each week, and I have Saturdays and the end of each week. I dont need to take weekend getaways or have elaborate weekend plans to enjoy time together. I promise the right guy will know where he ranks in your life and be glad that thats where he is...I think anyone that expects you to put them ahead of your kid isnt ready for parenthood to begin with.
I know these next few days or weeks will be tough. Hang in there, G.
