Deb - he may have just been horny. My ex-b had said just over a month ago (about 5 weeks now) that he felt I pushed too hard on sex, that he just wanted us to be friends. I called him and we talked - he seems to think that sex (to me) means we are a couple, or is making me feel too close to him, etc. That isnt' it at all. The fact that he calls me every day - that feels a lot more bonding to me. I told him so. I also let him know that I enjoyed our physical R, and that I didn't expect anything.

To be honest, things have gotten a lot better since that talk. I have no idea why. Of course, they could go down the toilet at any time, but I've been enjoying our time together. We've spent most of the last 4 weekends together, I've stayed over, he's initiated, etc. I don't know why. Things with us have been much more fun, more flirty. If it ended tomorrow, I'd be happy with the time we've spent together.

BUT, the point is - guys can often separate being romantic and being horny. Just because they have sex doesn't mean they are feeling loving. I know there are a lot of women like that too, but it seems to me to be more specific to men. So - I don't expect that ex-b currently wants any long-term R with me. But if he wants sex, that is okay with me. Not forever - but I haven't anyone else I'm interested in now. I'm otherwise working on me to prepare myself for someone else (or ex-b if he makes a good decision!)

And I'm giving ex-b this coming weekend off if he wants. Last weekend he was planning to at least spend Saturday alone, had said he'd wanted to chill by himself since we have spent so much time together (and we have, lots of good, quality time). But then I mentioned tacos and that piqued his interest. So I got there Sat evening and left late Sunday afternoon. If he wants this weekend off, I'm not even going to bring anything up. He's earned it.

Oh - and if ex-b is in the mood, I never say no. I never really have. But if I am - I may get it, may not. It sounds the same in your sit!