Blueboy

[resolut]

So still together, still working on piecing our M hopefully back together.

Just feel I need help from some of the old timers on here, who maybe able to give me advice.

I still have great difficulty believing that there are no more skeletons in the cupboard after some much covering up from W.

I'm also having difficulty living with the fact my W had a fully on relationship with OM, including staying over at his for a minimum of 6-7 nights, that they discussed an looked at houses together, that they had nights out together etc.

Just feel like I can't move on!

Blueboy, sorry for your pain in this. I'm in a very similar situation in that my W is very committed into her relationship with OM, planning their life, etc. He's also 16 years older than her. I have to remind myself that they're both just living in a fantasy world and one day the bubble will burst.

But, my W is also on A number 3 as far as I know. I don't know either if I fully want her back if she were to be remorseful, admit her wrong and work to rebuild trust. The locked smart phone can be the absolute worst device in a marriage. I struggle so much with what I would accept if she were to go NC with her A. I just don't know. But I'm not at that point right now and may never be.

Keep posting. We're all here for you.