Leahsue, yes, he is referring to Brene Brown. I'll watch it again today, as I had been at work and didn't finish it. I'll stop by your thread soon too :-)

Ownit, thank you for sharing your story. I need to check out your thread too. You wrote this, "Please don't hold your H to a standard of perfection that none of us can meet. Judge him only by his actions today." I will think about that even more and take it to heart. I feel that I am now getting to a place where I can do that.

Matrix, THIS here really resonated with me:

"I felt like if I forgave her, it meant that she got away with it. It meant that she was able to have an affair, have sex with another person and she still got to keep her husband and family. I could not ever accept that and it killed any chance that we had at reconciling.

I urge you to to find a deeper understanding of unconditional love and forgiveness. I wish I had so many years ago. I love my wife with every ounce of my being and she is gone now. I know you love your husband, so please try to truly forgive him. He is back and he is trying the best way he knows how. Give him the benefit of the doubt and try to not define him by the worst thing that he has ever done."

Thank you so much for sharing this. It means so much to me. As much as I have harbored this resentment, I also know that it isn't right and cannot continue. The hurt and anger only holds me back. I am learning to free myself of it and forgive--not for him, but for me--with the hope that the consequence is something much greater in life. This has become a spiritual journey for me.

Matrix, Can you link your last threads for me?

2016, I got you girl (wink, wink).

Blu

“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela