Just remember to take his issues with you with a grain of salt. If you believe there is a problem, fix it. Ex-b said a bunch of things to me that weren't nice once ex-ow was in the picture, but a lot of them were NOT TRUE. He even would be like "you didn't let me do xx (like go see friends in another town)". It was like - we never DISCUSSED it! He was like "well, I assumed". He is great at talking - we communicate well on so many levels. But if he had any problems whatsoever, he had to tell me.
Nearly anytime we've discussed issues - not that its been often, it ends up being strained because he'll get extremely defensive over any little thing. We should be able to just sit down and talk like 2 adults.
Oh yeah - he has always said that people can't change. He didn't believe me when I said I had been pretty independent, and essentially said that I couldn't change. But hey - he believed ex-OW could! "Oh, she's different" (yeah, bullcrap!) She was the same - she will likely NEVER change. And your H is probably believing you won't ever change either. If he believes that right now, it will be very hard to covince him otherwise while he's still in his funk.
