it's crazy the options that we are left with after an A takes place, do we end the M and mourn the loss of it and of everything we knew in our lives to be true; or do we fight to save our M, and to find it in our self to be vulnerable enough to once again trust the WS to be committed to the MR, to truly be committed to a lifetime commitment through the good and bad?
Neither choice is right or wrong, and neither chose is easy, but I fully believe the hardest path, is the path of rebuilding a MR. But as it stands, I believe that those who follow that path, and see it through, have the most to gain in the end.
I didn't have the opportunity to follow that path, I never saw a place where my WW was even partially willing to re-commit, so I chose to end the M. In the short term, it is definitely the fastest route to finding happiness, to refocus on self and just do things that you enjoy doing. but in the back of my mind I know that I will one day have to re-enter a R, I will have to trust someone and I will need to put in the work to hopefully fall in love and build a solid relationship, and there will not be any guarantees that it will last either. What I do know, is that I don't want to be alone for ever, so I feel like I'm putting off what those who chose the other path are doing now.
Have you gone back and read Bluwave's sitch, she's two years in and still struggles, but she continues to persevere... read through her sitch if you haven't, it will at least show that you are not alone in the struggles of piecing..
M - 9 1/2 years 5/5/16 - Bomb drop - 3 week EA 10/31/16 - We sold house 01/10/18 - D Finalized
