Yeah, I probably didn't have to remind her. As to why I did it? I got to see D on a Friday afternoon, and I got to pick her up from school in the "normal" way. In the past, Friday was always OUR day (we work half days on Friday here, and I always picked her up from school. It was special to me). Having that again for a day was actually nice.
I know where youre coming from. Every minute extra you can spend with your kid is awesome. Im just all for the regularity of the schedule. Divorce is hard on kids. As much as I love seeing them, selfishly, sometimes, I think having the regularity in the scheduling helps them more than seeing me extra would.
Originally Posted By: EastTN
If anyone wants to offer me any advice on this, I'm all ears. Here's the advice I gave her:
"She does well if you talk to her calmly. If you look at her and count, she'll settle down by 2, usually. She's been spanked once in three months. She WANTS to be good, you just have to get through to her. She also has to be able to run a little wild so she feels free. If you give her independence, then she'll settle down. And then you can threaten to take that away if you need to. She loves her friends here and she WILL be good if I tell her she won't be able to play with them if she doesn't do better."
I know your intent is to tell her how you parent, but can you see how it would likely come off to her as....preachy? Like, EastTN's way is the ONLY way to parent, and Mrs. EastTN isnt doing it correctly. Your goal is CO-parenting. Which means this should be collaborative. But the tone of this is that only you know what your D needs and W has to follow suit if she expects D to behave. Change the 'you's to 'I's so that she can weigh that against her style and figure out what works best at each place.
Originally Posted By: EastTN
Played Champions of Midgaard for the first time. It was a pretty cool game. I won, surprisingly enough.
I played that once. Wasnt a huge fan. Wish you got more 'special powers' that let you actually be better round to round. Glad you had fun!
