One thing Ive seen Sandi write about WWs is that while they dont really want you, they also dont want someone else to have you either. They really like that security of a Plan B. So when she sees you wearing new clothes or having plans, her curiosity is piqued, because she starts to wonder if there is a chance that she might lose you. That doesnt mean that she wants to be with you necessarily - but she could be feeding you a few crumbs to entice you to stay 'on the hook' for her.
Im not saying that youre necessarily on a bad path. What I do see from you is a LOT of confirmation bias. I believe that you want so badly to R, that you are interpreting every little thing she is doing as pushing you down that path. What we are trying to see is that the data you are getting is incredibly noisy, that its hard to show a trend in just a few days - watch for a few weeks; are you seeing continued behaviors that suggest a trend?
I would continue to advise you to read and reread some of the threads on detachment; you say you are working on it, but I read lots of posts about your W and the outcome of this, and not so much about your activities, your interactions with your child, etc. You say you are GAL and making all of these personal strides; share them with us so we can get a more well rounded view of you!
