my 2 cents. Your H is unsure of his decisions, and is trying to blame his abivalence on you. Total alien speak. He's trying to sort it out in his head that the changes he's seeing cant be real, as that would me he was wrong. Just validate as best you can ("I didnt like where we were in the R before, so I've made a choice to not be that way") do NOT justify what you are doing, as it will be taken the wrong way - as an attack.

Back off a bit and let him sort it out in his head.

Dont crazymake - it's his issue to deal with. The more you TRY to fix it, the more you will make it worse.


You're going in the right direction. His confusion shows it.

Bill. "you are who you chose to be" - Iron Giant Link To CURRENT Sitch