I'd like to say you did well, but you didn't. It looks like you are acting out like a teenager. WTF would you be talking to your W (yes, she still is your W) about you dating? How does that make you any different from her? You are supposed to be a role model for your D, and right now neither you or your W are doing well in that dept.
I suggest you take a step back and take a deep breath, you have A LOT of issues of your own to take care of, before you go fire and brimstone on your W...