Here I go again on my own...

[DonH]

Of all this, I too feel very, very bad for your D. I know you said that if this did not work out you would not get into an R until she is 18. I really hope that is not the case. You don't need to do that nor should you. But, please, please, please, I'm nearly begging you, please don't put D all in on a new guy until you are more certain and the risk is lower. That means more like a year. While doing it for D, that will also force you to go slower. That's a win-win.

As for FF, it's really not wrong for him to want what he wants. He's young and that's fair for him to want it. What's not right though is to chose someone that does not fit what he wants. If he truly wants someone with no kids, he should never have gotten this far in. That too is part of being a younger guy. To be honest, I don't think you'll find a side chick either. I just think he was giving it a try on a lighter basis than were you. I really think he knew that which is part of why he did not invite you to Easter. He has had these doubts all along. It was how great you are that had him hoping he could change them or overcome them. He now admits he can't.

While i do not think a side chick will appear, I do think he will come back saying he made a mistake. I actually fear it as if it happens it won't be a true turn but rather a short back together before he reconfirms what he said yesterday. No crystal ball here, just my gut feeling. Be ready for it n case it happens.

I have more but for another day. Right now I just can't reaffirm enough this is not about any short coming of you. Not one bit. It's just two people trying it out and seeing if there was a fit. That's called dating.