i found a real neat article titled; no more mr nice guy, referred to by Sandi from here.Its in a post where Sandi talks about tough love for the wayward spouse. through some deep soul searching i believe i was far too passive and accommodating through our relationship and can see how that can be suffocating and leading to where i am today. I'm going to read more on this.

BD Oct 2016
Me 47, W 43
together 25 years
S 25, D 22