I wish I could find the thread where I read it...

DBing allows us to -

1) Survive & thrive by ourselves in spite of their MLC.
2) Develop the skills to deal with our spouse on their terms, because right now they cannot see it any other way.

M: 49, W: 45
T: 22 M: 15
S14, S11, S9
BD: Jan '16
W files: Oct '16
D final: June '18