I can only speak from my experience, but if you let her control the timeframe, she will continue to eat cake, what brought my W back was the realisation that she had thrown everything away and the also force OM into realising he was getting her full time.

I think if you delay she will just keep cake eating, do you what to be in a open marriage?

Me: 40 W: 36
T21 M17
S12 D10 D10
ILYBNILWY
EA happened.
PA happened.
June 2016
trying to piece our M and life's back together...