Coly,
thanks for this update. I think you collected a lot of information and need to process it. Your H sounds miserable-- they still trust us to tell us who they see/don't see, their present lives (having "escaped"). I too, as of late was hearing about H's fights with this person or that, his mother is mad at him, etc. Keep up the good work, Coly, focus on you and D16.
hugs

A


me 42 H 32
T 7yr
M 6yr
BD 5/2016 ILYBNILWY
Separated 7/2016