Dealing with Devastation

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Just got back from Vegas, had a good time overall. Did my best not to think about her and have fun. Got pretty messed up by some girls trying to flirt with me, not sure how to take that.

Getting home I can see that she didn't stay here. This was the whole point of asking her to check on the animals, she gets to spend time with them and they have someone. I could have called 3 other people to come over and check on them for an hour. Honestly I'm getting pretty fed up with some things. She is numbing herself by creating her life's schedule: Work 13-15 hours a day, come home and eat at the table alone, watch tv and go to bed by midnight. The limiting conversation time is also grating. She said she wants to be friends, I can work from that, reconnect in that way, it's not the end goal for me but I can understand it. Cutting off conversations and lying about why, saying we shouldn't talk more than once maybe twice a week?? I deserve more than that and anyone who does that to a friend isn't going to have that friend for very long.

I'm calling tonight as I had planned to ask about counseling in a couple weeks, I need to try this for me. When that goes no where I'm going to tell her that if she can't treat me with the same respect she gives her other friends I'm not going to bother talking for a while. No pictures of the animals like she asked for, no calls. This identity crisis is something I can't fix. Until she sees that working 70+ hours a week isn't a choice for her, it's a way to numb herself and please others, at this point it's an addiction and I can't help her until she wants to help herself. Stopping seeing your therapist after 2-3 sessions (both the couples and her own) and saying "it's ok, I'm fine" is not okay. Especially after she told me how hard a time she was having, that she had to talk to her boss about it because it was affecting her work.

Maybe I just need a nap after my long flight... Thoughts?