Looking for a miracle.

[Irish M]

My mom's birthday is Monday, then of course mother's day right after.

Hi bttrfly xx
I think i got the dates wrong. Mothers day is next weekend, so oh joy, another week of crazy.

And it is sad that my girls lost not only their mother but the grandparents as well. Thank god for my parents filling that void they have.

You and your girls are in my prayers daily.

Hi SBJ , thank you so much for this. I too pray for you and so many others here. I believe we have all found this place so we can save ourselves and our children.

I am starting to wonder about this loss of memory. Is it a result of the MLC or a skill they develop to not face the results of their actions. I am starting to lean towards the later.

I would not loose sleep over this Irish. I don't believe the behavior will ever correct itself without a lot of help. Neither of our exs are getting that help so not much we can do.

Hi LT
I truly think it is a MLC trait. A defense mechanism that protects them from seeing the entire picture. I doubt they are completely oblivious to it. The mind protects itself from trauma. People have had car accidents and couldn't remember a thing.

I do believe that after time they get these memories back. In small doses so they can digest it. Then it depends on the core person. Do they confront it and talk about it... or pretend it never happened

Now my XW has always pretended things didn't happen and swept them under the rug. She would go to bed angry and wake up the next day all happy. Not wanting to talk about it. To me that is not healthy and I can see her doing that dance now. Nothing she did is wrong, lets just get over it and move on.

It won't work for me anymore and nor for the girls this time. That game has run its course.

I'm curious to know how many MLC'r are like that. Not dealing with issues and letting them slide away.



Update.. well I won a local contest to see some Elvis impersonators. My D16 loves the King so I bought a few tickets for my parents and D14. The show was amazing. What I did to win was send a video of me and the girls singing . The first Elvis mentioned it to the crowd and had us stand up for applause. lol they girls loved the spotlight and it made their night. yaaaa baby

Mothers day a week away.. weather is finally drying up. Thinking of taking a drive south to the Adirondacks next week.. I miss that area..