Well here I am looking forwards

[Sotto]

In my situation, I hoped to resolve the financials and S only.

However, XH suggested selling our main home (that suited me)
And I was advised only to sell as part of full financial settlement
XH only wanted to settle financials as part of divorce
And so he filed for D...

It suited me to settle the financials sooner rather than later, but I didn't really push that..

I think it is always best to have clear (written and with due legal advice) agreements in place upon S - ie: for financials, children and so on..

Time does help with the healing, and doing things for yourself, working on you, GAL all really help the healing too.