For some reason I'm not terrified of being hurt again.
I found that for me, after fighting so hard for my marriage, and still losing it - it was like the worst that could happen had happened. Nothing that occurred in my subsequent dating life could even begin to compare, it was all small potatoes. Not my first post-divorce boyfriend dumping me for his old high school girlfriend, not Mr SEB imploding and turning out to be a liar. I feel strangely invincible, and simply not as attached to outcomes as I was in my twenties.
