Her MLC: The Battle I Didn't Choose

[25yearsmlc]

PS

I think I like your MIL. What a lousy position for her to be placed in.

Don't assume she's your enemy...and she may be terrified of what the future holds, for her. Or prepping to return to Guatemala? God help her.

And btw, if any DBer has a kid grow up to pull this crap on their families, ever,

I hope we can all agree to do some real "Splainin'" to them...

So help me, down the road if my s30 or d's pull a stunt like this w/ their families, or what their dad is doing,

our r will not be the same.

Anyhow, a friend of the family sent me the note below. I think it may help you to find some peace. (She liked my h, btw.)


Please - everything he says is just BS at this point.

25- IDK if he will ever be able to be truly at peace with what he has done to you and the kids...
Seriously.

Not saying this to console you, or make you feel superior;

but I think he will be haunted by his actions - one way or another - for the rest of his life.
If he is a decent human being, regret, shame and guilt will
sooner or later get the best of him.

You simply cannot inflict such pain and damage to those who

Love you the most, and emerge unscathed.

And if he is truly devoid of kindness and empathy, then you are better off without him, despite so much pain and destruction.

You WILL rise above all of this and THRIVE. You just need to have faith (even when sometimes you cannot fathom things getting better) and really fake it till you make it.

You and your kids deserve better after so many years of struggling as a family.