Her MLC: The Battle I Didn't Choose

[25yearsmlc]

Brubeck

God forgive me but there were moments I read your last post and just SMH, and other times I had to laugh. I'm sorry, but it's SO insane sounding,

and offensive - as a woman especially - that I guess laughter is my coping tool.

I recall your history some, (and read most of your thread)

but has anyone at any time (other than you, of course) suggested she get a physical?

I've been thru menopause. It's not a venue for insanity. So I do NOT want to throw out some "Change of life insanity excuse"

partly b/c it offends me a woman. Plus, I've seen far too many LBS h's around pointing to the change of life as THE reason their m's are in crisis ("crazy w's") and it deflects from themselves and frankly, there are times it's just misguided. Way Too simple.

But women do know more about this now. When I had hot flashes, I went to get some help, when my libido was affected, I got some meds.

(Otherwise it'd be like saying "Oh, I can't taste food anymore - so I'll just eat this gruel to live...and serve it to my family too.")

But the sleeping cycles and binge/starvation eating and what sounds like laziness to such a degree as to = depression. Has she gotten an endocrine tests for maybe Possibly a thyroid issue? A pituitary problem? Extreme hormonal swings?

Same with the decreased interest in the kids, which is NOT common in my experience.


For mothers and especially most SAHM's, being a good mother is THE priority and THE source of our identity...
so, how our children view us, knowing they are our priority, is the single most important perspective we (usually) care about.

Your w's behaviors are so unhealthy & mean & crazy sounding (new??) habits. How new are they?

And throw in the wanting her L to "order you to fix the sink!" (yeah...that's a normal thing to say...) or when she says she "can't wait for the D so she can clean HER WAY!!..."

I'm not suggesting you say anything to her, b/c you know, you're you.

But otherwise?? Anyone else say a word to her? Anyone? (Bueller??)

- and what's the time line for the D?

When could you get out of this situation, if it came down to it?