Quote: . I told him afterwards I was confused because he hadnt wanted hugs and smooches and he said "the two aren't related" . I still don't understand, I don't think I ever will. It didnt seem the time to pursue it much so I didn't, but can any of you guys shed any light on this?
Guys appear to be able to separate sex and close feelings more than women can. Like...my ex-b and I still have ML, and actually there are a lot of different kinds of affection, but no real kissing unless ML. There is something that isn't there emotionally for him to do that. He does touch me a lot, but not as much hugging/kissing and such.
Enjoy what your H DOES do, but don't bring up talks, and don't ask him why he wants to do one thing and not the other. The best thing was him mentioning working in a different field.
I am guessing he is having a hard time between you and OW, and he can't get as close to you emotionally now. Don't push it. Be sexy, be friendly, be there for him - but don't ask him why he isn't doing anything, etc. It puts him on the spot.
Good going on everything else, though. I know how hard it must be to deal with the OW while being with him.
