hmmmm....Sage, I think you're right, maybe just wait and see is the best approach since he has been feeling kind of smothered...I think he'd be ok with that kind of discussion other times, because he's initiated some similar ones...but now it probably not the best time...I think I'll just ...."wait and see". Thank you for jumping in...I swear I think a "higher power" guided me to this, I just happened to click back on before signing off....never with a higher power!