We both know that we need to work on ourselves first before we can make the marriage work and she does struggle with looking too far into the future. She said she can only focus on the next immediate step as it becomes too overwhelming for her to think of anything but her next immediate step (which right now, is getting back to Sydney). She also said that she expects that I'd be over a few times a week so I can spend some time with the kids.
My wife has been back for just over a week now and I've stayed with her and the kids each night except for one. We haven't discussed our marriage, but we are still taking time apart which is strange as I've been here most of the time. We've been out alone and it was nice. We had a fun time and kept it light. She has been more affectionate towards me which has been nice, but 3 days ago, I overheard her telling her brother that she doesn't want to be with me, but she needs some time to make sure. She also said that she will miss my companionship and started crying. I honestly don't know what to make of it. We had a nice intimate night (not sexual), where we laid on the sofa and I gave her a massage. She was laying between my legs and embraced me when I put my arms around her. We went to the cinemas last night and we had a good time. She held my hand throughout the whole movie and we were hugging as we walked back to the car. Weve been sharing the same bed also. I'm quite confused.
She has been more affectionate towards me which has been nice, but 3 days ago, I overheard her telling her brother that she doesn't want to be with me, but she needs some time to make sure. She also said that she will miss my companionship and started crying. I honestly don't know what to make of it.
Sam,
She's on her own journey and you are on yours. There are ups and downs for both types (WAS and LBS). You cannot focus on what she is doing, saying or feeling because you have no control. Let it go.
Work on Sam, focus on Sam. Hope you have a great weekend.
Me 42, Wife 39; Married 16; Together 17; Kids: D13, S10 Wife asks for Divorce: 03/19/13 Reconcile: 07/07/13 Round 2 Starts: 02/19/17 Apartment Life: 04/21/17 PA Confirmed: 05/23/17
I have started speaking to one of the db counselors and she has been very good. She's recommended cultivating the friendship which is what I've been doing this week, and it has had positive effects.
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