Morphing into Red Hot Mama 2

[sage]

I also think I'm going to initiate a discussion with H...not about R or OW, but about what "turns him on". I don't seem to be very good at guessing. myabe I'll bring it up at lunch today and see what happens!

Deb...I just want to offer two cautions about this...

First off, my h is VERY action oriented, not word oriented...what about your H? A conversation like this would freak my h out a bit if it were sort of pointed...he would perceive it as confrontational and likely wouldn't react well...

how do you think your h would react? Maybe it makes sense to make a comment or two (like "I'd love to get some ideas from you...") well before the conversation? I'm seeing lately that my h likes some advance "warning".

But secondly, and more importantly right now, you've posted a bit in the last few days about h expressing feeling smothered or overwhelmed by your approaching him physically...maybe NOW just isn't the right time to be pursuing this conversation with him?

What if, instead, you took a wait and see approach and used the time to try to pick up clues from him?

BTW -- I know how compelling the desire can be to ask about this kind of stuff...

Sage