The Fab 5 and Dad

[J5K]

Hi all,

Thank you for the words of encouragement. I am at a loss of what to say anymore about XW. Some days she is cordial through OFW others she is back to my interpretation of criticism.

S8 and S3 were in the hospital on two different occasions. I called XW immediately, also asked if she wanted to come down to help and she said no. That really bothered me. Luckily I was able to find sitters to watch the other boys while I was in the hospital with the two.

Both S7s continue to have behavior issues and the school has been great in supporting their needs. I finally have them back in therapy again. One of my S7s was suspended for a dangerous thing he did at school. When I spoke to him about his feelings I found out XW is kissing OM in front of the boys. This really bothers him. He opened up some more and expressed his feelings about visiting his mom. XW has also stayed with the boys at OMs house now instead of ex in laws. My ex FIL does not want them at the house. Apparently OM does not stay there overnight with the boys, which is at least something.

I also found out that XW bought the house in Canada. She has not moved in yet but has moved some things out of storage. The most frustrating thing for me now is that as we speak here and there through OFW, she continues to lie. Her tone through emails does not show any respect for me either.

XW did not notify me stated in the judgement on whether she will take the boys for the summer so I have started planning for an au pair. I will also need a part time sitter as these little guys are a handful. XW sends a request on specific dates that she would like the boys over the summer. I just stated that she lost her time with them based on the agreement and left (this was during one of the exchanges with the boys). She was very upset.

I want to be the nice guy and give her something, but I also can see the perspective of the tough love approach. At some point in time I wish I could just speak to her so we could discuss an alternative method so we both have access to the kids.

In the meantime, I have been doing fun things with them on weekends. We have our ups and downs each day which never leads to a dull moment and all 5 are unique in their own way. I continue to have a bit of hope that some day the family will be back together. For now I am good with the NC and only discussing the boys.

Somehow XW has still not managed to hit rock bottom as she has her OM and XMIL supporting her needs. Not mine to worry about though. She is the one missing out on the little things these guys do day to day.

Oh yeah, and she still has no job.