WW in PA: Threaten to tell kids? Confront OM?

[hoosjim]

Thanks, Sandi. That is pretty much in line with my own thinking. Of course, her take on this is and will be that "we were already effectively done, my feelings for you were already gone, and we would be splitting up anyway with or without the OM. HE is not the reason we are splitting up." There is SOME truth to that, or at least some potential truth. We were definitely already headed in that direction before the A cropped up and, without the A cropping up, it is questionable if I would've been shocked into the changes that make me at least arguably the kind of man that she could stand to be with. Nonetheless, it seems pretty clear that WITHOUT the A, we would have a much, much better and more focused chance at reconciling. (But, as I said, she doesn't see it that way and thinks she can "separate the two" in her head.)

Not agreeing with her (completely), Just sayin'...