The last one was very very jealous and controlling. He ended that one.
Possible red flag here. Not that there aren't crazy women who are very jealous and controlling. But there are also guys who MAKE women crazy jealous and "controlling" by flirting with other women, or not giving enough attention to their partner, or not making plans in advance, or being an avoidant, or just plain cheating.
I'd suggest, at this point, that you implement some basic dating rules. Start making plans for yourself. If he wants to see you, he'll have to ask a few days in advance because you will be all booked up. DON'T be available to just hang out any time he feels like a last-minute booty call. Make it clear in a non-verbal way that he will have to step up to the plate a bit if he wants to see you, because you are busy and in-demand. And stop having him over when your daughter is there, or at least minimize that as best you can for the time being until you are more sure about this relationship.
Someone who comes on strong in the beginning then rapidly cools down once they've "got" you is a red flag too. My ex was like this. In the beginning of our relationship he was all over me, it was very intense, we spent all our spare time together, he took me home to meet his parents at Christmas just 3 mos after we met etc. But within a few more months he was starting to back off, I think if he hadn't had to move in with me (my roommate moved out and his roommate booted him out at the same moment) that he would have eased out of the relationship then. I would have been better off (except for my three beautiful kids) if I'd let him do what he was going to do and gone on my way then.
I'm not saying that's your situation, but DO NOT do the work to make things happen. HE should be pursuing you, and if he's not still doing that at this early date, then he's not the one for you.
So just set up a very busy social calendar for yourself and conduct an experiment to see what he does, ok?
