On the long and lonely road - trying to own it

[25yearsmlc]

My husband will have consequences of his own, but they will be specific to his actions. I think. I hope. [/quote]



Life will show him the consequences of his choices. But you will be "evening out the score" on your side of things by living well. At peace with yourself, forgiven, and happy.

If your h is incapable of feeling any consequences (& he sees parents who SEEM not to have had any)

then he's not capable of a deep authentic marriage, to anyone.

My gut says his parents have a "cool/distant" marriage in which his mom may have had a revenge affair, or they both cheated...

(& Your h only knows part of the story - I'm pretty sure of that).

So They are a family of secrets, with a marriage in which shame keeps them from fully disclosing their truths.

How happy and joyful can that be? How real?

Maybe those are the consequences - but they are too ashamed to face or admit their pain or the lessons they learned.

And that's a consequence of it's own.