Retrouvaille sounds like a neat program, but not sure if it is what we need right now. Seems pretty communication-oriented... which was a problem for us, but not the main problem. Also don't know if she wants a religious-sponsored program because she doesn't like any "you need to stay together because the bible says so" or "because it is the right thing to do" type-stuff.
Also, in general, I am not certain that we are "therapy ready" right now. Isn't therapy more appropriate for when you reach the "piecing" stage? Right now, she is fresh off an affair, sulking about it (and, quite honestly, probably still maintaining contact with the OM) and completely convinced that she and I have NO FUTURE together. Our last talk pretty much confirmed that, while she was open to counselling, it wasn't to "try to save the marriage" but to determine "whether or not she even wanted to try to save the marriage"... more of a box-checking exercise before she says "soyonara."
Having a really bad day, today, FWIW. Alot of despair, don't see alot of hope for us. God shows me the way forward, though, with or without her, and I will do whatever needs to be done. So, so hard, though. Wish I could hate her... would make it a lot easier.
H53/W51, R-ing 4/'18
"Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires"-Sg.of Sg 2:7
"So oftentimes it happens,that we live our lives in chains, & we never even know we have the key"-Eagles III 1:3
