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Then it gets worse, we have our company annual dinner next wednesday, and I just found out OW is signed up to attend. That's her and H and me all in the same room for a couple hours.



Well, go and look beautiful and be confident! Wear something sexy and smell good. Think of it as an opportunity and not as something to dread.

In my sit...ex-b had dated this ex-OW for mere weeks about 5 years ago. She was from overseas and then came to live with him - platonically, she dumped him right away for someone else and pretty much moved onto any guy with legs for the summer (and at least one with a wife). She was there for 4 months. I always felt like she'd come back and try to sink her hooks into him...once she saw that someone else was with him. She did when we first started seeing each other, sending her pics of him in curlers and red hair and such. Ugh.

So in Oct 2002 I got the bomb from ex-b. Then his mom asked me if I thought there was someone else, and I said no - but if there was, it was ex-OW. We continued to live together and talked about working on it - even as late as January of last year. What I didn't know was that ex-OW was coming to visit for 11 days the next month. Guess who ended up cleaning the entire apt. for her? Then I went to stay at a crappy hotel since I didn't find a place to live yet (ex-b had drug his heels on me staying/not staying) and she got to stay there.

He was really nasty to me at points - I don't think he realizes how mean he was. I don't think anything quite happened between them in February, but they must have talked about it between then and May, when he went overseas to visit her. They then were "seeing each other" although he slept with me up until the time he went to see her and two or three times after once he came back. Then he said he couldn't, that lasted through the rest of June and something happened around then. He got back to normal, and last November someone from our group noticed she had posted that she was going to get married this year (to someone else).

She is man-crazy, if nothing else. And not a nice person, she uses people. She has had relationships with at least 2 married men in our group and then like 4 other guys. This isn't a huge group, and she isn't from the states (but the guys are). I had said several times to ex-b that she'd be back (while we were together) and he was like "why, she didn't want me the first time". And I said "because she can". That is the only reason. Not because she cares about him or anyone else, but she uses her accent and her hair and her personality to pull the strings. She learned that she could pull the strings on ex-b again.

I am glad that he's back to normal, at least. I don't think she was the cause of our problems, but it didn't obviously help. I would say that the actual length of time they considered each other as b/f and g/f would have been...maybe 7 or so weeks. Not much more than that, maybe less.

It's been just about a year since he's been overseas. I am glad to have him back, even if he doesn't consider it a R. My time with him has healed a lot of what happened. I'm just not sure he still understands how much he was used.

Maybe I have spent too much time here, but I was with him for over 3 years. Now I've been part of his life for 4 1/2, so it's a pretty long time.

Good luck. Knock everyone out with something sexy at the company dinner!