Would I take vacation? Undecided at this point. You have to understand my wife. There is NO WAY she would take a vacation with me if she didn't have some sort of connection with me. Also, needless to say, it would piss the OM off and that is a positive.

She is not the type of woman that takes advantage of me or people in general. She is truly conflicted and testing the waters. Your not taking the wind out of my sails. I have just come to the realization that baby steps need to be made to salvage the marriage.

She is the type of woman that if she didn't have an emotional connection with me she wold have thrown the flower to the ground and stomped it with her shoe.

She was the one that was first pushing hard for the divorce to go quickly. This was 2 months ago when I was still very emotional, etc...

At the end of the day here is what is happening...

1. Deep down she wants to work on the marriage
2. She is skeptical of all of the changes that I have made and needs to know deep down that they will stick.
3. I have to be patient and be here when she reaches out.


Me: 38
Her: 33
Bomb: 1/6/2017
Separated: 1/10/17
Together: 16 Years
Son 12 Years Old
She and Son still at the house
Divorce Filed/Retracted Multiple Times
Divorce: scheduled to be final 6/20/17