Feeling good, but venting a little. I was texting the W about the timing of a potential vacation for just me and the kids later in the summer. She goes from "ok, just let me know" to "I've got to go I'm losing it" in like 2 seconds flat.
Could it be because last time you went on vacation with the kids it was the longest she's been away from them? If so, then that is something she will have to get used to. Maybe its why she had to go so quickly?
Could be. To me this is all part of "the other shoe dropping". It's one thing to separate from me, but it's a lot more separating from the family. She's already been saying over and over that she's going to have to be the bad guy. It just sounds like a lot of guilt IMHO.
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The other day she confessed that my D13 are so close that she often feels like an outcast and left out. I told her that I was sorry she felt this way.
In my position, if my STBEW said that to me I would just have to quote Seinfeld and say; "That's a shame". However, your sitch is nowhere near mine so I would say it was probably wise to validate her feelings there. Did you guys discuss this issue any further?
Yes. She was spending the day with my D13 on Monday going to an awards ceremony a few hours away. I knew she was going to get QT with my D13, so I wished her well in getting to spend all the QT and followed up with hoping it helped. She said thanks and it was a great day.
All part of 180's on my part as I know I would have said I was glad she got to do this before, but definitely more in tune with her feelings right now.
Me 42, Wife 39; Married 16; Together 17; Kids: D13, S10 Wife asks for Divorce: 03/19/13 Reconcile: 07/07/13 Round 2 Starts: 02/19/17 Apartment Life: 04/21/17 PA Confirmed: 05/23/17
