EastTN - one thing i would like to say about your comment about "All you can do is let go".
While somewhat true, you also need to be in tune with what wife is saying/doing and react in such a way that will advance your chances. You can't just bury you head in the sand, do nothing at all and hope to get the phone call one day to reconcile.
As Michelle says, do what works and stop doing what doesn't work.
Me: 38 Her: 33 Bomb: 1/6/2017 Separated: 1/10/17 Together: 16 Years Son 12 Years Old She and Son still at the house Divorce Filed/Retracted Multiple Times Divorce: scheduled to be final 6/20/17