3.5 Months of Pain - Fork in the Road

[sellout]

All: great responses, question, comments, etc... So again, let me preface by saying that I am following the rules very well these days. With that said, it doesn't stop the fact that you still wonder what IS/Going to happen with the end result.

After a discussion with my counselor and church support group and telling them a lot of the details that have transpired over the last 7-10 days, the consensus what that my wife is not done with the marriage. She is conflicted, confused, hurt and scared that if she comes back that it will turn into same situation as before. Needless to say, I patiently continue my journey and get her time.

One thing that stood out to me that my counselor said was the following: Reminder that she wanted to take a "family trip" for the 4th of July. When I told counselor about this, he response was that if she was so happy and serious with OM, she would risk going on a family vacation with the pending divorce and OM getting mad (which of course he would). It should the value she places on their current relationship. He also thought it was an olive branch and to proceed with caution.

That coupled with her ceasing all divorce/attorney talk, talking about wanting to keep the house, her being very nice and polite to me, speaks volumes. Yes, as far as I know she is still seeing OM, but honestly I can actually see that fading, and see light at the end of the tunnel. My hope is that within 1 month I will be posting in the piecing thread.

I know my wife and if she wants something (i.e. divorce) she will push hard and make it happen. She is not pushing, so I need to be patient. I told my attorney that I want to "stall" a little bit on the divorce to buy a little time here. I advised him that under no circumstance is this to be shared with her attorney and its needs to stay quite.

Last, still working on myself and doing a great job.

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