My heart surely goes out to you and D. I hope you do maintain contact and she allows you to visit her in the future.
I know you explained your D is 17 and busy with life and stuff. But I imagine there is a little time for dad. How about really trying to build on that? What does she like to do? Take her out to dinner. Even if she keeps rejecting, never stop asking. One person you will always pursue is your child. Never stop that.
