I had a thought....not always a good thing for me, but....clear back last fall, when I first found out about everything, H told me OW had told/begged/pleaded with him not to leave her. If she was doing that then, when things were "good" and I wasnt even giving her any competition, she never was very confident about this all. yet she seems OH SO HAPPY and so forced cheerful when ever I catch a glimpse of her at work or on the phone. (not so much at rel. class, though)....but that might explain why it's so up & down for H, why he keeps calling her, why S perceived her as "whiny" when they were together....why H has said "things arent easy/great for her".....

I don't know, does this make anysense to any one else?

Any one else's spouse quit using so much "smell-good" stuff when they stopped seeing the OP?

MY prayer for today: Lord, help me be cool, calm and aollected, and let the OW be the clingy whiny one!

been around awhile!