And though it always hurts to be betrayed, in this case I say thank GOD there's a side chick - to do some heavy lifting in case TDH goes totally bonkers again.
Ah, I think she's done too. Once she figured out he had been totally lying to her about our relationship - she apparently is co-dependent enough that she would break up with him, then he would feed her some BS like we had broken up, or I was seeing someone else, or we were just friends - but now that she knows we were together all the time, she's pretty much done with him too. I wish she wasn't - it would make it easier to just shift his attention on to her and off of me - but she doesn't deserve the treatment he gave her either.
I did get the best of it - I was naively unaware so I had 4 years of a nice relationship. She had three years of Sturm und Drang and pain and suffering because of what she knew and how he treated her.
Just trying to figure out the best (safest) way and time to tell him I'm NOT going to continue in a relationship with him.
