I bring up the A, because it is continuing at an EA level. So yes, I have been discussing ways on stopping that. As for 180s, I don't have an anger issue. But if someone says something smart to me, them respond taking it up a notch. Realizing that was my issue, through counseling I have made it a point to simply respond to my W differently and I have seen the results of that. I have been giving my W more attention and helping out more. Which she has also noticed. well done
The only time, I have spoken with contempt was in regards to the comment she made about me. Which also stems from several things I have found she has said about me in messages I have found. Trust me the things she has said deserves harsher words. But I have let it go for the sake of fixing the MR. I am the only in this MR taking personal accountability and I am fine with that. most LBSers have to start and end with this accountability thing for a long long time. It's valuable to know.
But somehow you think bringing up how to deal with my the elephant in the room, which is my W EA is somehow solely focusing on the A makes no sense. Saying your surprised I'm here means that you skimmed through most of the comments and focused on one short vent session. I'll remind myself next time to keep it all to myself.
really?? That's what you are taking away from this?
We cannot do anything about your w's EA/PA. She is not here trying to save the m.
We can only help you. Hence the focus on you and your choices.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
