EastTN - Of course i am VERY MUCH in this still. I wouldn't be on this board if i wasn't. Being IN THIS and detaching are not mutually exclusive of each other. I understand 100%. It's human nature however and you can't just flip a switch in these types of situations. Being analytical within yourself doesn't jeopardize anything with reconciling. Its natural to wonder.

Any others with ideas to my above questions?

Me: 38
Her: 33
Bomb: 1/6/2017
Separated: 1/10/17
Together: 16 Years
Son 12 Years Old
She and Son still at the house
Divorce Filed/Retracted Multiple Times
Divorce: scheduled to be final 6/20/17