You're missing the whole "detaching" part, man. Your questions are saying that you are still VERY MUCH in this.
I've been told over and over that this isn't about her, it's about me. People keep telling you the same thing. It's not about her. It's not about your M. It's about you.
Stop. Breathe. Breathe again. Then stop worrying about all of this. You have no control of this. None. You can't analyze your way out of it. You can't convince her to come out of it. Looking for little signs is going to kill you, and it's not going to do you any good, anyway.
